A visit from aunt flo, riding the cotton pony, your time of the month, the red tide, blood moon, bleeding for days without dying, on the rag, womb sauce, drip drop… the euphemism list goes on and on for your period.

The myriad of choices at a drug store. I could not even get them all in the frame. I do sports so I should go with sporty right, but I like that label...

The myriad of choices at a drug store. I could not even get them all in the frame. I do sports so I should go with sporty right, but I like that label…

Back in the old days women would be sent to the red tent to sit on some straw and do who knows what.  Nowadays we have to just walk through life, doing the same regular thing, like nothing is being expelled from our uterus.

A few years ago, I read a book called Cunt by inga muscio.  I highly suggest any female or anyone who loves a female read it.  {as a cool note, igna grew up in the town right next to mine, you probably haven’t heard of it, but its cool none the less}  It was a pretty quick read, some history, some woman power and it presented me with choices to make.  What was I going to do every month to stanch the flow?

Was I going to find myself at CVS on the feminine isle deciding between regular, super or light toxic shock tampons.  I certainly was not going to buy any pads as I have never wanted to sit on a small diaper between my legs.  It has been so long since I have visited an isle like this that I had forgotten what it is like. Thank goodness.  I did however visit one for the picture above.  With so many choices, how do you even make one?  And where are the good choices?

Shock of shocks here ladies.  Men control these isles.  Most of the tampons keep us very far away from our own bodies, heaven forbid I get some blood in my fingernails, so thank you for this extra trash.  I was always one for an OB.  Small enough to fit in my coin pocket, always there when I needed it, and just a little shove with my finger will put it right up there where I want it.  But as with all things these days, nothing is as it seems, these items that we must buy are filled with chemicals and are certainly not organic cotton.  It’s crazy how we will buy organic cotton for putting around the outside of our bodies, but our most intimate place is being stuffed with toxic tampons or lined with poison pads.

The options in a health food store. Notice the diva cups on the bottom right, second row from bottom. Make sure you read the label, they have different sizes for different ages.

The options in a health food store. Notice the diva cups on the bottom right, second row from bottom. Make sure you read the label, they have different sizes for different ages.

My vehicle of choice now is my diva cup. I bought mine at whole foods like 3 years ago and it’s still holding strong, albeit more colorful than when I pulled it out of the box.  And guess who runs the company a woman and her daughter!   Yep they dusted off this relic of old days and revamped it for nowadays.  The little silicon cup takes some practice using but is pretty easy. The trick is to push your vaginal wall away, creating space so the cup can open up and then test it by twisting it, if does a 360- you are good to go.  It also lets you see how much you are menstruating and can be left in for as long as you like depending on the flow. This will cost you some money up front, but then you are always covered.  And zero connection to toxic shock syndrome.

If I had some aversion to this method, I would make my own organic cotton or bamboo pads and wash them myself or buy one on etsy.  [I’m still looking for a reusable panty thong liner for just in case, maybe I’ll have to make one.] Anything to keep me handling this business myself instead of outsourcing it to some guy who doesn’t know what he’s doing besides trying to make money off me, and you and our daughters.  All while simultaneously polluting the natural environment, the one between my legs and then has the audacity to tell me to get some douche too. Now please don’t do that ladies, our bodies have natural pH that is self monitored.  If you do find yourself with some extra candida, avoid the next isle over at all costs and put some diluted pure melaleuca essential oil on a organic cotton tampon and ride it out.  It works.  Good idea to have some of this oil if you are traveling too, it’s hard trying to find anything in a foreign language.

My diva cup after like 3 years. Gross maybe but it still works and we are tight together.

My diva cup after like 3 years. Gross maybe but it still works and we are tight together.

I would be remiss to end this post without talking about the pain body.  My partner Kirsten gets the most painful periods.  She describes them as “recurring, heavy, feels like she is having contractions,” she imagines it’s like giving birth as it can be debilitating. She finds herself putting a women’s monthly blend on, deep breathing and lying down.  Even before it starts she is anticipating it, sometimes running into things like I do. She finds exercise helpful, drinking a lot of water and will resort to ibuprofen if it’s really bad (she uses this much less now that we have found essential oils).  Mine are not so bad.  After talking to both our mothers, it might be that I will be in for a doozy during menopause and Kirsten will phase into the next part of life with nothing too significant to mark the date on the calendar.

The collective pain body is “the pain accumulated in the collective human psyche over thousands of years through disease, torture, war, murder, cruelty, madness and so on,” as described by Eckhart Tolle in The Power of Now.  This connection to the collective pain body that some of us feel may indeed make us closer to enlightenment.  How cool.  This pain during menstruation is an” awakening of the dormancy of the pain suffered by women through male subjugation of the female, through slavery, exploitation, rape, childbirth, child loss, and so on,” as paraphrased from the same book.  The awakening can be painful, but pain can be channeled into other paths, ones more spiritual.

How can we become enlightenment during this moon time?  How can it turn our pain into spiritual growth and expansion?  By realizing that we are the ones capable of growing and birthing the next generation and that our body’s connection to the human species is designed to bring us to the point of near death during labor and bring us back again with the newness of life.  As we become aware of what and who we are and take our power back, we can contemplate all of our connections to the divine- to light, to love, to source.

Beyond making sure we have supplies to cup our flow, we can be the bridge between this world and the unmanifested world.  We can become ourselves when we are present in this moment, not the past or the present.  Our pain is not us, it is our attachment, but it can also be the line that we spool out like we are flying a kite on a windy day.  Forgetting about the feeling with each unwinding and feeling the current free us as we float into bliss.

So how do you stanch the flow?  Where do you find yourself every month when the moon is full?  How do you deal with the pain body and allow it to expand and transform you?  What is your now like?

How about now?

 

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  • brandy says:

    I love my cup! Got a collapsible one from intimina. I love not shoving toxic chemicals in my innards. For the women who think it’s gross to have menses blood washed in your sink: think about how many people wash fecal matter in your sink. Also, I think there’s a misconception about the emptying: it gets emptied in the toilet, and washed in the sink. So not only is it better for your body, its better for the earth’s precious parts, too.

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